I am currently Listening to my favorite FM Radio with the Djs having a very interesting topic. Is it important to bring up topics from your past relationship to your present lover? Just a matter of Yes or No. Well for me, it's not completely wrong to ask something about the past. It could be wrong unless you always bring it into your conversation. Past should always belong to the past. But it doesn't mean you have to completely ignore it. Those things are important too. Those that happened can be instruments of a better relationship in the present. For example, if you did something wrong in the past and turned out that it resulted into a bad experience. Well I guess, it serves as a lesson not to do it again so that you wont be having the same mistake again, with of course, the same consequences that brought you pain and misery. It's good to tackle things in the past, but not the notion that you always have to slap it over and over into your partner's face. That is when relationship is not healthy anymore. In addition to that, being so much attached in the past will always bring you sadness and INSECURITY.

When we take every opportunity to remind our spouses of past problems or mistakes, it makes it clear that we really haven't forgiven or moved on. We must learn to let go put it behind us. Maybe the issue was never fully resolved and needs to be discussed calmly and settled once and for all. This should not be attempted during a disagreement or heated exchange, but at another time.

Nobody is perfect, and we are all tempted to use past hurts as a weapon at times. Think about things before you say them, and do not lash out in anger. Let past hurts go, and deal with the issue at hand in as calm a manner as possible.

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