My Life and My Love

36 ways to Reduce Stress

2008-10-18T11:00:00.002+08:00

1. Pray

2. Go to bed on time.

3. Get up on time so you can start the day unrushed.

4. Say "No," to projects/activities that won't fit into your time schedule, or that will compromise your mental health.

5. Delegate tasks to capable others.

6. Simplify and un-clutter your life.

7. Less is more. (Although one is often not enough, two are often too many.)

8. Allow extra time to do things and to get to places.

9. Pace yourself. Spread out big changes and difficult projects over time; don't lump the hard things all together.

10. Take one day at a time.

11. Separate worries from concerns. If a situation is a concern, find out what God would have you to do and let go of the anxiety. If you can't do anything about a situation, forget it.

12. Live within your budget.

13. Have backups; an extra car key in your wallet, an extra house key buried in the garden, extra stamps, etc.

14. K. M. S. (Keep Mouth Shut.) This single piece of advice can prevent an enormous amount of trouble.

15. Do something for the Kid in You everyday.

16. Carry a Bible with you to read while waiting in line.

17. Get enough exercise.

18. Eat right.

19. Get organized so everything has its place.

20. Listen to a tape while driving that can help improve your quality of life.

21. Write thoughts and inspirations down.

22. Everyday, find time to be alone.

23. Having problems? Talk to God on the spot. Try to nip small problems in the bud. Don't wait until its time to go to bed to try and pray.

24. Make friends with Godly people.

25. Keep a folder of favorite scriptures on hand.

26. Remember that the shortest bridge between despair and hope is often a good "Thank you Jesus!"

27. Laugh.

28. Laugh some more!

29. Take your work seriously, but yourself not at all.

30. Develop a forgiving attitude (most people are doing the best they can).

31. Be kind to unkind people (they probably need it the most).

32. Sit on your ego.

33. Talk less; listen more.

34. Slow down.

35. Remind yourself that you are not the general manager of the universe.

36. Every night before bed, think of one thing you're grateful for that you've never been grateful for before.

My First Featured Friend in Friendster

2008-10-05T17:39:00.002+08:00

1. What's his/her full name?

• Macky Namata Audal

2. Does he or she have a boyfriend/girlfriend?

• ehe. YES. :x

3. Do you know a secret about him/her?

• yes again. :)

4. Is this person older than you?

• nope.

5. Has he/she ever cooked for you?

• ehe. that was not really ONLY for me. . ehe.

6. When was the last time you thought of him/her?

• NOW. and later and Tomorrows ..

7. Do you have a nickname for each other?

• yeah. Baby ^^. Sometimes he calls me PUTOT tapos i call him PIKOT. :)

8. How many times do you talk to this person in a week?

• Once a Week, at m0st.

9. Why is this person your number one?

• The Half That Made Me Whole .. nakx!

10. Have you seen this person cry?

• nope.

12. Have you ever been to the mall with this person?

• YES..

13. Have you ever had a sleep with him/her?

• how i wish. hehe. joke!

14. If you ever moved away would you miss this person?

• he already moved away for work at Miami. And yeah, I terribly miss him.

15. Have you ever given this person something?

• YES.

16. Have you ever done something really stupid with this person?

• yes. hahaha.

17. Have you ever made something with this person?

• yes again.

18. Have you fought before?

• uh-huh. spices in a relationship ya know. :P

19. Do you know everything about this person?

• hmn. i guess s0.

20. Do you know this person's shoe size?

• 10 .. haha. grabeh. times 2 sa ak0a.

21. Have you ever worn this person's clothes?

• yeah. his shirt. He told me to wear it because it'll be cold when we travel. :x

22. Have you ever heard this person sing?

• YES. We even had our duet.

23. Have you and this person ever gotten into a fight that lasted more than 2 days?

• loss communication for years :D

25. Do you know how to make this person feel happy?

• YES. :)

26. Do you and this person talk a lot?

• When we have time.

27. who is his/her crush??

• It's for us to keep. hihih ;))

28. Has this person yelled at you?

• He's the type who don't yell. And I love him for that kay he knows how to control his temper :) ..

29. Do you love this person?

• VERY VERY MUCH.

30. Do you want to be with him/her forever?

• if God permits, y not.

My Story Of the Day

2008-09-18T17:54:00.004+08:00

Anyway, I read a book today. It's been years that I get to read a whole book. 3 years I guess. I stopped reading because the condition of my eyes are getting worse. I am getting nearsighted and my sight blurred when it's already late in the afternoon. I WAS addicted reading novels of Judith McNaught, Jude Deveraux and I forgot that another favorite author. Since I can't put the book down, I read them even when I'm lying in my bed, with not enough light. And when I am not reading any pocketbooks, I could sat down infront of the computer the whole day. In a way, I was a nerd. But I liked it. I was flexible in many ways. Even though I was kind of a nerd, an Engineering student FYI and solving math problems during the night, I had tons of friends. Really. :) I go to parties too, well, only right after my exams.

And I am getting nostalgic now. I am missing my friends. Right after our graduation last March this year, most of them decided to work outside the city. Not me. Since I am the type who easily get home sick. And the kind who always look for my mom and dad when I wake up from slumber.

And oh, about the book I read today. It was heart-breaking. A book by James Patterson entitled Suzanne's Diary for Nicholas. It was a love story, which James Patterson don't usually write since his novels were mostly thrillers. It talked about life and love. Five balls, as Suzanne was teaching Nicholas the importance of life's five balls. Friends, Family, Health and Integrity -- 4 balls that was made of glass balls. And the other one is Work - a ball which id made if rubber. Simply means, to me, that those 4 glass balls were the most important things in life. You have to treasure because once they were broken, they would of course, break. And as of the rubber made ball, they bounce back when you throw them. Not really throw them, but well, they're not that precious compared to those 4 glass balls which needs extra care.

Hearts For Him :)

2008-09-18T17:50:00.005+08:00

It's been a week since my last post. I should have written some of the things that happened last days. It was exactly one week that I was deeply worried about Macky for not calling me on a Thursday, which he usually does. Well, he called last Friday. I was really relieved from all the worrying that was in my head. Because I thought they were hit my hurricane Ike. You can't blame me, it was on the news that it might hit Florida for the reasons that they are located in the Western part of America. Also, they have the beaches, which is really close to calamities like the hurricanes.

Yesterday, he was at Puerto Rico. And he sent me his recent pictures while we were chatting.

This is the fruit of his labor, an HP Pavillion DV6985SE and an Itouch :)

This is my favorite. Ain't he the sweetest?

A Thursday Rant

2008-09-11T19:30:00.005+08:00

Honestly, I am feeling lonely today. Since it's Thursday, I was expecting my baby to call me or at least text me. But I received none. When I'm from work early in the morning, they already docked in Miami's port. I just pray they are safe right now because last day, I read a news that there's a hurricane in the Southern part of Florida.

Anyway, I am not going to write a mushy-all-about-me-and-him post today. Instead, It'll be something, well, it's still about me. But it's all about how productive I am today.

I have a new layout, you see. It's my FIRST blogspot layout. Not really my first encounter of html/css and adobe but as I've said, my first blogspot layout. I was not accustomed with the blogspot codes such as the bloggeritemdate, bloggerheader and other SQL queries. Good thing though, I manage to "like" them (as if I have a choice right?).

Last night, I was internet slacking at the office (ssh!). I was kind of jealous of those people who are able to customized their blogs, that's why I got interested. I already have a blog in wordpress but unfortunately, they don't allow users to customized the layout. Though I liked their professional-looking templates, I would want to learn new things on how-to make templates. Not to mention I WAS a frustrated web designer years ago. I guess this is the right time to practice what I really love doing. :)

Good luck to me!

My Saturday get way (overdue post)

2008-09-09T16:54:00.006+08:00

Last August 30 (Saturday), me and my officemates went out to celebrate Ate Jen's pre-birthday celebration treat. It was also Raffy's treat when he won the Best Costume during our General Meeting with the there Cosplay. We had beers and videoke. But the thing that I really enjoyed was when we turned the videoke room into a disco room.

Here are some of our pictures:

Cocoy is the man!

And this is the last pose before going home :)

It's been quite a while that I went out and had fun. I am officially working and I don't have much time going out. Not to mention I am in the most dreaded graveyard shift that's why I tend to sleep the whole day. Right, I almost don't have a social life. Anyway, I hope to do this again. Soon! -- with my special someone. hehe. ;)

More pictures in my multiply account. :)

Bringing Past Relationship with Your Present

2008-09-05T22:28:00.002+08:00

I am currently Listening to my favorite FM Radio with the Djs having a very interesting topic. Is it important to bring up topics from your past relationship to your present lover? Just a matter of Yes or No. Well for me, it's not completely wrong to ask something about the past. It could be wrong unless you always bring it into your conversation. Past should always belong to the past. But it doesn't mean you have to completely ignore it. Those things are important too. Those that happened can be instruments of a better relationship in the present. For example, if you did something wrong in the past and turned out that it resulted into a bad experience. Well I guess, it serves as a lesson not to do it again so that you wont be having the same mistake again, with of course, the same consequences that brought you pain and misery. It's good to tackle things in the past, but not the notion that you always have to slap it over and over into your partner's face. That is when relationship is not healthy anymore. In addition to that, being so much attached in the past will always bring you sadness and INSECURITY.

When we take every opportunity to remind our spouses of past problems or mistakes, it makes it clear that we really haven't forgiven or moved on. We must learn to let go put it behind us. Maybe the issue was never fully resolved and needs to be discussed calmly and settled once and for all. This should not be attempted during a disagreement or heated exchange, but at another time.

Nobody is perfect, and we are all tempted to use past hurts as a weapon at times. Think about things before you say them, and do not lash out in anger. Let past hurts go, and deal with the issue at hand in as calm a manner as possible.

The Dance Of Life

2008-08-31T23:24:00.002+08:00

There were two hearts who met in a dance. That moment was magical. There was a sweet song playing, there was harmony and soon Love in the air. They fell in love and started building castles in their dreams and promised forever with all certainty. But, somewhere in the midst of fun, they got lost in the dance, something went wrong but they can never do anything. They were just drifting away, their fortress is falling apart. There were so many question, but no one had an answer.

The music stopped and there was silence...

When we truly love someone, we give our best and let that person see the pureness of our intension. but sometimes that person makes us cry and hurts us for the wrong reason. That someone must have loved us but he has not loved us enough to make him stand for what he truly felt.

Now we are faced with the seemingly impossible task of forgetting. We have burdened ourselves long enough but we still can't get out of this emotional trap. Let us remember that the more we try to forget someone we love, the more painful letting go will become.

Sometimes we never had to take that person out of our hearts at all, for he will always be there no matter how hard we try to drive him away. It isn't his presence that makes this difficult. It is our stubbornness to accept our destiny that aligns forgetting next to impossible.

We keep a cold face by deep in our hearts, there is still that lingering hope for reconciliation. Somehow, we still believe that we can rekindle small embers and relight the fire that once burned in our hearts. These thoughts give us hope but it also breeds of loneliness and despair.

The only way to forget is to accept and the only way to move on is to look ahead and let the footprints of the past be blown by the wind of time. Only then can our hearts find a partner in the DANCE OF LIFE and hopefully never get lost again.

My Blogging Personality

2008-08-30T04:25:00.002+08:00

Your Blogging Type is Logical and Principled

You like to voice your well thought out opinions on your blog.

And if someone doesn't what you write, you really don't care!

Serious and blunt, sometimes people take your blog the wrong way.

But you're a true and loyal friend to those who truly get you.

Out of the blue, while my office mates are on a break; I was curious what was my blogging personality. I actually based my answer here from my other blog. I am the person who is really fond of surveys. I sometimes use these surveys to get to know myself more although I don't completelety judge myself through the results of any surveys or any tests. But still, I think, in some ways, they can help you assess yourself and get to know some unknown facts of ourselves.

Long Distance Relationships

2008-08-28T22:26:00.005+08:00

I'm not really good in words when describing or to let you understand what I want to impart but I'll be writing this topic based on experience.

Back to the lather, yes, long distance relationships. Difficult and really takes a lot of trust between the two of you. Long distance relationships are difficult, as you are emotionally attached to a person you cannot touch or comfort (hug, kiss or hold hands) and this can hurt your heart and wreak havoc with your emotions. The only way to make these relationships work is if you and your partner honestly believe you will be able to survive without each other for a considerable amount of time without the need or desire to be with someone else. Not only that, it also requires more of the typical "I understand you" phrase. When he will be too busy in his work or it's too impossible for him to get in contact of you, you really have to understand him with no further ados. It's not only because you have no choice, it's because you love him. You have to be positive that he's not doing anything to destroy what you both have.

As I've said, being in this kind of situation is not easy. It never was. Specially the part when you badly want someone to talk but he's not around, seems like you have no one. How to handle in this kind of emptiness takes a lot of strength and faith. Some may even test your faith in each other and even disagree with the status that you are. You can't blame those people if they have different perceptions in life. All you have to do is TRUST and have faith. All relationship must have this main ingredient, but for couples who are engaged in long distance relationships, they would have to double or triple the efforts. Is it worth the wait? It's still you who can decide. As long as your happy with someone, then continue with what you both have. And nurture it.

Remember, every kind of relationship takes hard work and dedication to your loved one or partner, whether it's long distance or proximal. If you and your partner are willing to take these steps, then expect bumps and turns in the road.

This is what I usually do on friendster -- survey

2008-08-27T15:42:00.003+08:00

What are your plans for your next birthday?
• My birthday falls on a Sunday this year, so i guess I'm staying home with my family.

Who was the last person you had a conversation with and what about?
• My mom. She was asking me what time I'll be leaving to the mall.

How are your nails?
• It's short and clean.

How is life going for you right now?
• It's pretty fine.

Are you keeping a secret from someone who needs to know the truth?
• I don't know. I guess none.

Is there any meaning behind your profile song?
• I don't have any profile song for now.

Do you believe what comes around goes around?
• Definitely.

What is your favorite fruit?
• Almost any fruit.

Do you trust people easily?
• No. That's something hard to give.

Have you met anyone new lately?
• Yeah, over the internet named Jen. She is such a nice lass.

Do you give out second chances easily?
• Nope.

Do you like hugs or do you freak when people hug you?
• I like hugs but not with just anyone, that freaks me out.

Are you a lover or a fighter?
• A fighter.

What color are your eyes?
• Dark brown

When was the last time you went out?
• Last night, off to work.

Who made you smile today?
• He has not called yet, so I guess I'll be smiling later. :)

Do you smile a lot?
• You bet!

Best thing that happened to you this week?
• Pay day. Haha!

Do you hate anyone?
• Nope. It's not me.

What's a happy time you've had today?
• When I was talking to my 4 year old nephew.

Are you an emotional person?
• At times, yes.

Are you self conscious?
• Not really.

Do you keep a diary?
• I used to keep one.

Who do you feel the most comfortable around?
• With my family, my close friends and with him,

One thing you're looking forward to?
• The day he'll be home from Miami. Though we both do not know the exact date.

Do you think anyone out there loves you?
• Yes.

Have you ever seen your best friend cry?
• Yes.

What is the last thing you ate?
• Lunch. Porkchop and rice.

What color are the curtains of your room?
• yellow

Where did you get the shirt you're wearing?
• I asked my sister to buy this for me.

Is anything bothering you right now?
• Not yet. hehe.

Does anything hurt on your body right now?
• Thank God, none.

Have you ever liked someone who treated you like crap?
• Yes, decades ago.

What happens tomorrow?
• Tomorrow is holiday in our town. No work. Yipee!

What does your hair look like right now?
• It's down.

Has anyone been disappointed in you recently?
• I don't really know. I hope no one is.

What is your favorite number?
• 8 (fengshui?).

The ISFJ personality - ME.

2008-08-26T15:14:00.000+08:00

I took a personality test today. Little did I know I am the ISFJ (Introvert, Sensing, Feeling, Judging) type of person.

And here's the summary of the ISFJ personality.

At work, ISFJs contribute loyal, sympathetic, consistent, and considerate service to others. They are know for their kindness and for their willingness to go to any length to help those in need. They take the practical needs of people into account when they do their work, and their strong follow-through skills allow them to carry out organizational goals. They do at least what is expected to them and oftentimes more, without attracting attention to themselves. They are painstaking and responsible with detail and routine, and feel it is important to have the right things in the right places at the right times.

I have googled about this, it says this kind of personality is like that of Maria Theresa. Wooh! You mean someone with a golden heart eh?
More or less the personality I took was accurate. Oh well, in some ways I am ISFJ, maybe in other ways maybe I'm not. I would just say, it depends upon the situation I'm in.